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  Lavynder Lee
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"Feelings Friday" is a term I coined years ago.

I would inevitably hang out with friends at the end of the week and we all needed to vent. 
This is my unfiltered (oh shit!) blog about my life.

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I wanna sex you up! *Also, HAPPY HOLIDAYS FAM!*

12/25/2020

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It's Feelings Friday!

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Disclaimer bc duh!
The topics discussed in this article are mostly my opinions and awesome experiences. I will include links to back up facts that I may discuss. Feel free to google on your own boo! The internet makes us all fact checkers.
Topics
  • BDSM
  • Feminism (my brand)
  • Other juicy stuff (ha! Pun totally intended!)
  • Sex positivity
  • Body Positivity
Can you feel it? 
Hey babes!
Blessed Be! Winter Solstice was December 21 and I KNOW I channeled that bitch HARD. In this post, we will be talking more about sex. I never get tired of talking about sex fyi...


I will also also sprinkle in a bit of magic at the end. What do I mean? Just you wait! *insert cockney accent ala My Fair Lady*
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Sex positivity baby!
I am absolutely a sex positive feminist! Now I know that you may not be familiar with this term so I will break it down love! 
Side note: If you aren't familiar with sex positivity, please do your research! I will explain my brand of it below. 


Intersectional Feminism
dictionary.com defines intersectional feminism as:
“A movement recognizing that barriers to gender equality vary according to other aspects of a woman’s identity, including age, race, ethnicity, class, and religion, and striving to address a diverse spectrum of women’s issues.”
So how does this apply to my brand of sex positive feminism? Keep reading boo!
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Do what you want with your body babe! 
My brand of sex positivity is simply this: 
HAVE AS MUCH SEX (safely and consensually OF COURSE!) AS YOU FUCKING WANT TO!

Seriously! Do. The. Thing.

As long as you are being safe and all parties involve ENTHUSIASTICALLY CONSENT to the sexy time activities, have at it! 
Masturbate, watch porn, have group sex! I went to a sex club once and it was a blast (ha! pun unintentionally intended and you're welcome)! 

You can also be as chaste as you want. If that's your brand of staying true to you and your sexuality, I support you!

I basically want ppl to be fully educated on sex and safety. Know how your body works and how your partners' bodies work. 
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Another part of my brand sex positivity is that IDGAF what consenting partners are doing, because it's none of my business. I also fully do not care about what people may think of my sex life. Im here to enlighten, educate, and entertain. If that's not your interest, *whips cape back and dramatically points to an invisible and metaphorical door* there's the door hun!

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Big Clit Energy!
(No typos boo)
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Yup. I said it!

​Big. Clit. Energy!

I love sex and I love talking about it. As obsessed with sex as Americans are, a lot of us (older generations) still associate people with high sexual drives as immoral.

Sex is just like any part of life like work, parenting, going to school, etc. There are things you know and things you don't. You have some frustrations and some joy. There is always an opportunity to learn! 

I am very much that person that asks my friends when the last time they had sex was. When was the last time you got your back blown out? In my mommy group in Houston, we talk about our sex lives a lot. It is always entertaining, supportive, and enlightening. We can all learn something positive. Good sex is important not just with a partner(s), but also celebrating your own body and solo orgasms.

“But did you cum though?” Is something I say quite often. Friends
care about friends’ orgasms. I also don't segregate my conversations based on a persons gender identity. I have learned so much about sex and interpersonal connections through my conversations about sex and intimacy with other people.

When you own your sexuality and stay true to yourself, you will be amazed at how it positively impacts your life. Whether that is being celibate, having round the clock trips to pound town, or somewhere in the middle, do you boo. Own your shit! It levels you all the way up to final boss level.


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I put a spell on you...

Blessed be and Happy Winter Solstice!
I celebrated quite a bit and really leaned into my intentions for 2021. Sex magick is something that I have discussed with fellow witches.

Yup. I said witch babe. I will absolutely get into that gig in a later post...

​Winter Solstice is the longest night of the year and around the same time that Winter officially begins. If you are intuitive or empathic or gifted in any way, you may feel an energy or vibrations running through you. I utilized this energy I felt and channeled it through sex with my boyfriend K. It was a beautiful experience and I was vibrating all over even long after we finished.

Solstice is also a time for re-birth. To me, that's another way to say time to re-brand. I am so excited you are joining me on my journey to Boss Babe Supreme. 

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I hope you enjoyed this first chapter in the ever evolving novel of Lavynder! There is DEFINITELY more to cum (ha!)! Don’t forget to subscribe for updates and I will see you next time on “It’s Feelings Friday!” xoxo
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“Let’s talk about sex baby!”

12/18/2020

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It's Feelings Friday!

S.E.X. 
Hey babes!
We are getting to the dirty stuff in this article. Well... Not really dirty... Let’s face it, we all have sex do we not? Either with a partner, multiple partners, or often times solo like Han. (See what I did there! LOL!)

Disclaimer bc duh!
The topics discussed in this article are mostly my opinions and awesome experiences. I will include links to back up facts that I may discuss. Feel free to google on your own boo! The internet makes us all fact checkers.

Topics
  • Dom/Sub relationships
  • Sex and dating between two women
  • Sexual orientations
  • Other juicy stuff (ha! Pun totally intended!)
  • Sex positivity
  • Polyamory/open relationships

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She’s Queer honey!
What does that mean? 
Well, Webster’s defines “Queer”as: a person who is gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, or otherwise not heterosexual. https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/queer

Why don’t I identify as bisexual? 
Well, I do I guess... 
For me, labels aren’t really important. I like who I like. I am attracted to the person not how they identify. Queer for me also works because I will (jokingly) say I am half gay man and half lesbian. 

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A Tale of 4 Titties (I am so punny!LOL!)
I have always been attracted to women. Ironically, I only came out a few years ago. I wasn’t in denial, I just think that labels are overrated. When I finally realized that I was queer, I kind of laughed to myself like “duh girl!”
Within the past 2 months, I started seeing this woman. Whoooo Chile! Let me tell you... I am experiencing pleasure like I have never felt before.
It’s not even just on a physical level. Being with her is wholly different on an intellectual level as well. We connect emotionally and physically in a way I didn’t think was possible.
This is very new for both of us, so we are taking it slow(ish lmao) but so far it has been wonderful. 
Now here’s where it get’s delicious honey... She is into BDSM and she wants me to be her submissive!!
*hold while I put on some pearls to clutch*
Lavynder Lee does NOT submit!

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Polyamory vs. Monogamy 
I may be using some terms you are unfamiliar with but baby, get to googling! 
I am polyamorous. For me, this means I have multiple romantic partners. There is not one size fits all for polyamorous people. Some also describe this as having open relationships. Now, polyamory is not to be confused with polygamy. That is usually the practice of one man with multiple wives for example (heterosexual relationships typically but not always).
I was in a (mostly) monogamous relationship for 11 years with my husband, and it was difficult for me. I have always been polyamorous but I didn’t necessarily know it until I started meeting other poly people in Houston.
Monogamy is not my jam. The thought of being one person’s EVERYTHING for the rest of my life is a hard pass. It is impossible to be someone’s everything. I will go into my philosophy on this more in other articles.
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I hope you enjoyed this first chapter in the ever evolving novel of Lavynder! There is DEFINITELY more to cum (ha!)! Don’t forget to subscribe for updates and I will see you next time on “It’s Feelings Friday!” xoxo
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