It's Feelings Friday!
Sex positivity baby!
I am absolutely a sex positive feminist! Now I know that you may not be familiar with this term so I will break it down love!
Side note: If you aren't familiar with sex positivity, please do your research! I will explain my brand of it below.
dictionary.com defines intersectional feminism as:
“A movement recognizing that barriers to gender equality vary according to other aspects of a woman’s identity, including age, race, ethnicity, class, and religion, and striving to address a diverse spectrum of women’s issues.”
So how does this apply to my brand of sex positive feminism? Keep reading boo!
Do what you want with your body babe!
My brand of sex positivity is simply this:
HAVE AS MUCH SEX (safely and consensually OF COURSE!) AS YOU FUCKING WANT TO!
Seriously! Do. The. Thing.
As long as you are being safe and all parties involve ENTHUSIASTICALLY CONSENT to the sexy time activities, have at it!
Masturbate, watch porn, have group sex! I went to a sex club once and it was a blast (ha! pun unintentionally intended and you're welcome)!
You can also be as chaste as you want. If that's your brand of staying true to you and your sexuality, I support you!
I basically want ppl to be fully educated on sex and safety. Know how your body works and how your partners' bodies work.
Another part of my brand sex positivity is that IDGAF what consenting partners are doing, because it's none of my business. I also fully do not care about what people may think of my sex life. Im here to enlighten, educate, and entertain. If that's not your interest, *whips cape back and dramatically points to an invisible and metaphorical door* there's the door hun!
Big Clit Energy!
(No typos boo)
Yup. I said it!
Big. Clit. Energy!
I love sex and I love talking about it. As obsessed with sex as Americans are, a lot of us (older generations) still associate people with high sexual drives as immoral.
Sex is just like any part of life like work, parenting, going to school, etc. There are things you know and things you don't. You have some frustrations and some joy. There is always an opportunity to learn!
I am very much that person that asks my friends when the last time they had sex was. When was the last time you got your back blown out? In my mommy group in Houston, we talk about our sex lives a lot. It is always entertaining, supportive, and enlightening. We can all learn something positive. Good sex is important not just with a partner(s), but also celebrating your own body and solo orgasms.
“But did you cum though?” Is something I say quite often. Friends
care about friends’ orgasms. I also don't segregate my conversations based on a persons gender identity. I have learned so much about sex and interpersonal connections through my conversations about sex and intimacy with other people.
When you own your sexuality and stay true to yourself, you will be amazed at how it positively impacts your life. Whether that is being celibate, having round the clock trips to pound town, or somewhere in the middle, do you boo. Own your shit! It levels you all the way up to final boss level.
I put a spell on you...
Blessed be and Happy Winter Solstice!
I celebrated quite a bit and really leaned into my intentions for 2021. Sex magick is something that I have discussed with fellow witches.
Yup. I said witch babe. I will absolutely get into that gig in a later post...
Winter Solstice is the longest night of the year and around the same time that Winter officially begins. If you are intuitive or empathic or gifted in any way, you may feel an energy or vibrations running through you. I utilized this energy I felt and channeled it through sex with my boyfriend K. It was a beautiful experience and I was vibrating all over even long after we finished.
Solstice is also a time for re-birth. To me, that's another way to say time to re-brand. I am so excited you are joining me on my journey to Boss Babe Supreme.
I hope you enjoyed this first chapter in the ever evolving novel of Lavynder! There is DEFINITELY more to cum (ha!)! Don’t forget to subscribe for updates and I will see you next time on “It’s Feelings Friday!” xoxo
Queer, millennial mum of 2 just tryin' to make it...