Leveling up & achieving balance
It's Feelings Friday!
The topic is health... Mental Health. *James Bond voice*
I was diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder shortly after my first monster exited my body. I had postpartum depression and I was full time breastfeeding/pumping, working full time substitute teaching, and getting my BA in educational studies.
Honey I was TIED!
A friend suggested I see a therapist (shoutout to Dr. B!) that specializes in birth trauma and postpartum depression. I have been seeing her for 4 years now. Knowing that I have anxiety is a gift and a struggle at the same time. Knowing that it comes from childhood trauma that went unresolved FUCKING SUCKS but it's apart of the process. Understanding that I was abused in my marriage and where certain triggers come from is necessary for my growth.
All of this to say... Face your fucking demons and see them for who they are. Once I saw what was chasing me I could stop running. I am not saying I am cured and everything is great all the time. I am saying that knowing why I ge anxious gives me a way to know what tools I use to battle it.
If you are struggling with mental health issues, please seek help from a trained professional to get support on your journey *blows kiss*
Meditation and Spirituality create balance.
Let's say it all together kids... "Balance is necessary." I am up at 6 am every day... Ok you caught me! My alarm is set for 6am and I definitely snooze it every day. But I am working on it!
MIND YA BIDNIZ!
I am a routine kinda gal. I love structure in my day.
So here's how my morning goes:
This routine helps me keep balance of my day. I start my day in control and present in the moment. Now I am working on my evening routine.
I need to make sure that I am creating a mental health sandwich. One slice of bread is the morning routine. The vegan meat in the middle is the normal day to day bullshit that I will navigate using my tools. I utilize deep breathing, taking breaks, and staying present in the moment to handle daily triggers. Then we have the other piece of bread which is the evening routine. I need to shake of the day and cleanse myself of any residual negative energy.
* I'll create a separate post to talk more about stretching and meditation for mental health in another post.*
Natural remedies and Holistic options.
When I first started seeing the doc, I told her I didn't want to take meds after I was diagnosed with anxiety. You know how that goes... You don't want to become dependent on pills. She suggested I start out with dandelion root tea. Dandelion root tea. My therapist explained that because I had just had a c-section, was breastfeeding, in school, and working full time, my adrenal glands were over worked.
Read this excerpt from Michael Lam, MD, MPH
"Over the years, the extracts of the dandelion root have been shown to contain vitamins A, B, C, and D, as well as minerals, such as iron, zinc, and potassium; all of which are of supportive importance to the adrenal gland. If the adrenal gland is constantly activated and lacks the optimal vitamins and minerals, its efficiency at making the vital hormones to fight fatigue declines rapidly and can be rewarded by dandelion root tea benefits."
Read more on Adrenal Fatigue here:
I would drink the tea every morning on the way to work. After about two weeks of of the tea, I could feel that I was much more calm. I went back to drinking the tea recently in the mornings and I can feel my body physically relaxing. Drinking the tea and taking the Valerian root drops are truly tools I need to manage my stress.
Part of my evening routine is drinking a nighttime tea. This is when me and the kids are tucked into bed. This tea is so good and calming and mmmmmm... Seriously at the end of the cup I can barely keep my eyes open! It lulls me into a gentle sleep that is amazing. Look at the ingredients in this tea Chamomile, spearmint, lemongrass, natural French vanilla flavor, tilia flowers, blackberry leaves, orange blossoms, hawthorn and rosebuds. Delicious!
If you have anxiety and are wanting more natural and holistic ways to help manage your stress, I suggest trying these out. DISCLAIMER! Please do your own research and consult a professional if you need more assistance.
Check out the links below for the products I mentioned.
Self-care is self-love.
I am focusing more on what makes me happy. If I am happy, content, and balanced with myself, everything else will fall into place. When I am balanced, I am a better mom. I am less anxious and more open with my beebeez. A balanced lavynder is a better partner. I will be less emotionally exhausted and can have more to emotional and energy to pour into my partners. Balance makes helps me to be more creative. I can freely think without stress of "what if?".
Self-care these days looks like a lot of different things for me. It mostly involves working on the inner me. I am more focused on spending time with myself so I can listen to my intuition. When I can quiet my mind, I can focus on what needs to be done.
Some things I do for self-care:
Alright kids, time for your homework assignment...
Ok my baby love,
This week I want you to take some time for yourself and find out what makes you happy. How do you perform self-care? I would love for you to comment on this post and give me some tips for self-care that I haven't mentioned.
I'll be back next week to discuss some new topics but don't worry we will revisit this. Mental health is always on my mind *badum tisss*
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Queer, millennial mum of 2 just tryin' to make it...